I first became a mom after years of infertility and months of fertility treatments. To be honest, it was nothing like I had expected. Things I hadn’t planned on being challenging were suddenly huge issues and I was overwhelmed with a love for another human that I could hardly comprehend. My emotions were all over the place, fluctuating between fear, exhaustion, frustration, elation, euphoria, and pride.
Seven years and three kids later and my emotions surrounding motherhood haven’t changed much. The problems are different but the struggle of motherhood still remains.
The responsibility of raising these little people is intense and the inevitable loss of self can be disheartening. Even on the best of days, parenting can be hard and challenging. And lonely. It seems like no one ever talks about the loneliness that can come with motherhood. We erroneously think we are the only mom on the struggle bus and that we must be failing in some way.
This just simply isn’t true. Social media might paint a rosy portrait of how those “other moms” live their lives but please don’t buy into that narrative. We all struggle, we just don’t all talk about it.
You aren’t alone.
It’s okay to not be okay.
I hope the quotes below will remind you that motherhood is a journey, with good and bad days, and it’s perfectly okay to acknowledge and accept the bad feelings. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t struggle with the complexities of actually being human from time to time.